So this week's tweet is actually one that one of my followers retweeted and upon reading it, I had to retweet it as well. It's also rather funny that I would stumble upon this tweet because as freshman year comes to a close, I realize just how applicable it is to some of the people I have befriended this year.
My freshman year here at Penn State has been a learning experience, to say the least. While I have learned something new in each of my classes, I would say that the bulk of my learning came from experiences outside of the classroom. Namely, through living with someone else.
To sum up the situation with my roommate, we requested one another coming into this year and about a week in, I realized things about her that I really didn't like. Since we requested one another, I didn't know how to confront the situation and eventually things boiled over and the situation got so bad that we didn't talk for weeks. Now, we manage to be friendly with one another without actually being friends. It works for the both of us and provides us with some space from one another. After all, that shoebox we call a room can get cramped when you spend your entire day with your roommate, as the two of us did. But I have to admit that during the time when we weren't talking, I seemed to talking about her the most to other people. I quickly realized that by trying to maintain my attitude towards her and forcing myself not to talk to her, yet by still being consumed with talking about everything she did, these were all signs that I clearly did care about the situation. What makes it even harder is I have to admit that I did still care about her as well. We had grown really close at one point during the year and if there was a night she was out at a party little later than I expected, a part of me started to worry that she was okay. But then I would quickly remind myself that I'm supposed to be mad at her and I shouldn't care about her wellbeing. Now that my roommate and I are fine, I realize just how ridiculous I was being and just how true this tweet is. I've realized that if you grow close to someone as a friend (the same applies to someone potentially becoming more than a friend), it's difficult to just turn those feelings off and act like you no longer care about them. A part of you will always care about them, regardless of the situation.
Has the same situation ever happened to you? Did you have to learn the hard way like I did?
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